Your Guide to Good Kinky Sex

Keeping sex exciting can mean the difference between a good relationship and a mediocre one. If sex is boring; you're having sex at the same time of day; same place; and/or same position, then its time to get kinky.

Sometimes a change of place works, but if you end up in the same love making routine, you are ready for something a bit more adventurous.

Kinky sex is exciting but may be a bit bewildering. It's can be a world of fantasies, bizarre costumes, and terms like "B&D" (Bondage and Discipline) and "S&M" (Sadism and Masochism).

To get started, peruse a catalogue of sexual paraphenalia together. If you both get turned on, you're probably ready to try a little kinky sex. You've already made the first step by visiting our store and reading this article, so grab your partner and get ready to explore.

A Point to Remember . . . Kinky sex is the opposite of normal sex. There is no such thing as spontaneous kinky sex. Without planning, you can expect failure and disappointment when you try kinky sex.

When using 'props' and other devices, ensure that they are tested before hand. There is nothing worse than having something go wrong after you planned the perfect fantasy.

For B&D (Bondage & Discipline), use soft leather cuffs which are snugged to your wrists with straps (buckles or even Velcro) and snapped together with a metal clip. They are very safe, and more importantly fool-proof so you don't have to worry about lost keys, bruised wrists & ankles, etc.

For vibrators and dildo's be sure you have fresh batteries in them (for vibrators) and they have been thoroughly washed prior to use. Also ensure you have some lubricant close by - just in case. In addition, try to get your partners reaction to the shape of them before buying - your partner may be uncomfortable with a 'realistic' but be totally at easy with a smooth vibe or dildo.

Continuing, you will need to decide on what fantasy you want to act out, get the equipment, and plan it together, as a couple. Kinky sex experiences are two-person operations. The "getting ready" can lead to anticipation and excitement.

For many couples, kinky sex starts without any equipment at all. Even conservative lovers might indulge in scratching or even biting during orgasm. In addition, light spanking during sex, has been used for hundreds(?) of years to heighten orgasm.

When it finally comes to actually living your fantasy. Make sure the two of you are alone and won't be disturbed (or disturb others). It's best if you can find privacy at home. If not, think about going away for the experience.

Be sure to tell your partner exactly what you're going to do. This gives your partner a chance to object, and also to anticipate the experience.

There's nothing perverted or wrong about experimenting with sex in a loving manner as long as you are both of legal age and no serious pain or injury of any kind is inflicted. Mild pain is okay, as long as it's during intense sexual arousal when it's experienced as pleasure. To heighten the pleasure and to ensure you or your partner is not hurt, develop a method of communicating "STOP". For some, saying "stop" is not effective as it may be a part of the fantasy - come up with something different and that is agreed upon between both of you - if you hear it, you must stop!

Also be sure to occasionally devote the same effort you'd invest in an kinky sex fantasy into an evening of old-fashioned romantic sex. Include flowers, candlelight and sexy foods (strawberries and bananas are great for starters), forget your fantasies for the evening and concentrate on being close with your real lover.