Massage Tips

* Ok, when stimulating your partner, you should not only focus on what they are feeling. When I give my boyfriend a massage, I have him close his eyes, because doing this makes his other senses more sensitive, such as touch or feel. Whisper during the massage. If you want to be seductive during the massage then try these things: when giving a light touch stimulation, lean in (good for when you are working on their arms and they are on their stomach) and whisper to them (semi seductively) things such as "feel my hands as I lightly touch every inch of your body, focus on my touch, and my voice as I whisper in your ear." Giving them a play by play stimulates their brain and their emotions while your hands stimulate their body. - VAngelite

* Use your knuckles to break down pressure points in the muscle. Do so carefully and softly. If you do this to the bone area, it will sometimes be uncomfortable and tends to tickle. - Camel

* Lightly rub the spine with the tips of your nails (only if they're not sharp!!!!), then rub away lightly with the palm. Also be sure to take your pointer and thumb and keep them about an inch apart, then stradling the spine with them, move down notches with circular motions. - Cenzo

* When giving a sensual back massage, always keep in contact with your partner using both hands and doing slow circular motions. Do all the muscles but also follow the curves and dips of your partner as well. - Little Lady

* Start from the tops of the shoulders, on both sides of the neck. Then, with just the tips of your fingers (use ALL of your fingers), with moderate to heavy pressure, slowly work your way down in a "typing" motion. When you reach the bottom, rub the spots you just got with the palms of your hands in a circular motion until you find yourself back where you started. Repeat as necessary. - Matt

* When giving a "light touch" sensual massage, NEVER lose contact. IF a hand or fingers become tired, keep using the other one. When switching, AVOID loss of contact. When turning your partner over, use one hand to turn and the other to continue the sensations. - A Squared Bill

* Hit the pressure points. If you don't know where they are, look them up online. If you're a massage dummy, just hit the pressure spots with gentle but firm force, and you cannot go wrong. Especially with the pressure spots located in the neck and shoulders. Those are killers that anyone would love to get rid of. - Bob

* I have found that if you blow real light cool air around their neck, face, and ears, they love it, and it relaxes them. It's a sensation as well as stimulation. Combine it with small kisses and light rubs to the tricep areas, as well as the lovehandles. -Tbo

* During your massage, lightly run your fingernails against their skin. It gives them goosebumps and is really erotic. - Sexy Jami

* Probably well known, but what my girl really likes is when I use my thumbs to make circular motions about an inch from either side of her spine extending from the top of her butt to her neck. - Snaggle

* When using your fist, always keep your thumb pointed out, elbow close in to the body, leaning gently inward to achieve correct pressure. And use long, slow, complete strokes. - Jake

* Lick gently down the spine and around the ears and neck. Also, don't be afraid to let your subject feel and hear your breath. That is invigorating as well! - Mojo

* When massaging the foot, make sure you always end the foot massage with kisses on the foot very tenderly. It drives women wild. - Foot Massager

* I use my medi-carpals when putting more than just gentle pressure, that is the place on your finger that is between the two knuckles. Use your thumbs only as a guide. Do not use them to apply pressure. Also working below the small of the back is very effective in relaxing someone. - Tyler

* When rubbing down the back, use the heels of your hand and gently apply tapping pressure with your fingers. Start from pinkie to index finger as if you are typing or playing the piano. - Marty

* I was being treated for a lumber strain by a chirapracter and before she adjusted my spine, she rubbed on my very lower back in a continuous small circle, in the middle where it joins the buttocks. The doctor did this with a gel. It turned me on so much that I could barely keep responding to the doctor's conversation. I'm glad I had my jacket in her office, so I could walk out with it covering the result. - John

* When doing full body massages, go completely down one side of the body, then the other. This keeps the hands from cramping. Also, massaging the person in the nude is always best. - Robert

* Start out slowly. Make note of any injuries they may have (where you're massaging). Use both hands and all of your hand, not just the thumbs or fingers. While your hands do the massaging, you should breathe slowly and deeply. This helps you focus. - Kory

* Be gentle! There's nothing more off-putting than someone who just goes in there like they're kneading dough, and ends up causing more pain than relaxation! - Scuz

* It can be enjoyable for your lover if you work all of their tension into one spot, then just squeeze the knots from that spot. If this is successful, it will leave them in a relaxed state with zero stress. - Shaun

* The experienced, perceptive, erotic masseur employs the holistic approach. He or she will appreciate the value of applying a thorough relaxation massage before using erotic techniques. This makes the recipient's mind much more responsive to 'suggestion by manipulation,' thereby enabling a magical communion of minds through touch. Delicate sweeps of hands or fingers over areas of skin that have been sensitized by relaxation massage produce prodigously effective arousal without any need to stimulate the more obvious erogenous zones. The more thorough the body coverage, the better, but just the nape of the neck (most sensitive), spine and shoulders are enough in a normally responsive individual. Maintain relaxation therapy throughout the erotic stimulation phase to maintain production of cholines and endorphins. Avoid applying delicate sweeps too often, as this is likely to deplete these agaents and cause 'numbing.' - Archmagus

* Use just the tips of your fingers, very lightly. - 2eyesgreen


  Atmosphere/Mood

* Never expect sex to develop as a result. Do it for the sake of massage. If anything, that'll arouse your partner more, especially if they're expecting something sexual to happen. Massage is as much about the mood as it is about the touch. - Chas

* Get comfortable. If you are sitting in an odd position and can't be comfortable and relaxed, then your hands will tense, which will cause you to do most any massage wrong. - Heather

* Make sure you have all the time in the world. You never know where it may lead. Don't expect anything in return. A great massage should be as enjoyable for you, just giving it to your partner. Plus, they will probably feel very drained and may end up going to sleep, which is very understandable, realizing the pleasure they have just received. Music and lighting are very important. A nice fire would be perfect. Warm up your body and your mind. Warm hands are much more soothing. - Rick

* When massaging your loved one, you must remember to concentrate. Think of all the reasons that person makes you feel so good. If you do this, it will make the experience satisfying for the both of you. - Cat Rncddn

* When massaging your partner, visualize making love to them as you do so. That way, you will give it your all. - Judi Karr

* Learning Tai Chi can greatly improve your massage technique. This ancient Chinese method teaches balance and control of the body's center of gravity. When your body is in balance while giving massage, you will tire less easily, and the flow of your movements will be orchestrated better. Your partner will feel the difference as you find new confidence and add reassurance to your movements. This builds trust which is an essential ingredient in all bodywork. - 


  Body Area

* When massaging, pay special attention to the neck, where it attaches to the skull. A gentle massage there is enough to put anyone to sleep. - gentlehands

* One of my favorite spots, while giving and receiving a massage is the calf muscles. It can get a bit tickly, but feels great. - Davie

* What I like is when my boyfriend rubs gently up and down my hips and then goes to my inner thighs, and then starts over again. And what really drives me crazy is when he kisses my neck to my breast lightly at the same time when he's rubbing me! It feels so good! - Shorty

* When massaging my boyfriend, I always rub with light to medium pressure on his inner thighs in a clockwise and then counter-clockwise motion. He goes crazy the higher up on the thighs that I bring my hands. - Fierce Kitten

* You should massage the feet, and then kiss them gently and suck on the toes. This will drive them crazy. Make sure the feet are very clean. - wolfprincesstou

* Run your fingertips down the back of their neck. Especially if you have long nails. Use figure 8's or anything to surprise them. Don't just go in a straight line. - Stars In Your Eyes

* Most people massage the muscle. While this is a good idea, don't forget to massage beside the spine as well as the tricep, should joint, and love handles. Also, use variations of your hands. Don't stick to just circles with your thumbs. - Animal

* Massage women just below their navel or just above the pubic area! It sends tingles through the whole body. - Christine

* Women hold extra stress between their chest and neck. Be sure to gently massage that area, once they are comfortable with your hands being in such an odd location. - Greaser

* My rule of thumb, the more of the body you touch, the better! And don't be afraid to touch somewhere different because chances are it's the same spot someone else passed up. - Sensational7

* When caressing your partner - never leave them untouched. Always keep at least one hand in contact with their body. - Mike Herron

* Don't forget to massage the scalp ... combines the wonderful feeling of running your fingers through your lover's hair and stress relief. This works especially well if s/he is lying on their back, with their head in your lap. If you have long hiar, let it drape over their chest, and plant feather-light kisses on their forehead and temples while you massage their scalp. He's completely at my whim when I do this! - Cora

* Don't forget your partner's hands and feet. Take the time to gently work the palms and backs of the hands, top and soles of the feet, and pay special attention to each finger and toe. - PSD

* Women have a lot of tension in the lower region. After a while on the upper back, when she is comfortable with your hands, then use your thumbs to round her upper buttock region (good for people who have sat for long periods of time). - Seize

* Pay special attention to the muscles in the back of the neck. People carry a lot of stress there, and many of us overlook this area in massage. You will probably receive encouraging moans if you're doing it right. Drag the thumbs up along the muscles at the back of the neck from bottom to the nape. Very relaxing. - Lyzbeth


  Props to Use

* Rather than using vanilla, try coconut. Every guy likes the scent of vanilla, but I hear more guys and women saying, "Mmmmmmm, something smells good. What is that?" - Kat

* Try using a mid-sized rolling pin (the kitchen tool) & work out the knots like a ball of dough. - Manicmissa

* If you use honey as your lotion, it has replenishing nutrients for skin and tastes great when you lick it off! - Karen

* Using your personal oil, glide down your lover's legs and back, up between the thighs, and down again, firmly going to the buttocks and squeezing in a gentle manner. - Audret

* The best way to help set the mood is with candles, but remember - as with anything - too many will kill the mood. Try using aroma candles.

* Use your imagination when massaging. If your mate isn't too ticklish, use your fingernails and run them lightly over the body. Use anything to help give that extra feeling - silk, feathers, roses. Let your mind go wild and your partner will too. - Richard

* Put on relaxing music and light, vanilla scented candles. - LitlLayt

* Use gemstones to rub over your partner's body. The sensation of the stones rolling is very soothing. Make sure to warm the stones up first. Hold them with your finger tips and gently roll them around. If you or your partner has very little body fat, then just cup the stones in your hands and rub. Use either Rose Quartz or Amethyst - these are supposed to be love stones. - AftmostSiren


  Before & After the Massage

Before

* To help establish that warm, interrelationship feeling, start the massage with a foot wash. This is especially effective with a 'new' subject who is not totally sure. Just before there is any body work (or getting on the table), have the person sit in a chair and gently wash their feet. Wash with a basin of warm water, soap, then gently work with a mix of 2/3 baking soda, 1/3 salt. Rinse well, dry. Then lotion is worked in during a good foot massage. This induces a feeling of relaxation and trust in continuing the experience with you. - Jkimo


After

* Use oil -- hands glide easier across the body. After a back and neck massage, kiss the neck as gently as you can. This will give him or her spine tingles. - Sparky

* After you massage your partner, lightly kiss their back. It turns my boyfriend on a lot! - LuveBuggy

* Always end the massage with a bath or shower together. The water shouldn't be too hot or too cold. If you are planning to use the tube, then carry her and gently place her in the tub. - Atul_G1

* After a total body rub-down of your partner, lightly scratch his/her back, starting at the neck and working your way slowly down to the feet, changing direction and pressure of scratching as you go. Focus on the back of the arms, edges of arm pits, sides of ribcage, inner thighs, calves, and outer edges of the feet. It will both relax and stimulate your partner. - Thumper

* When the massage is over, gently glide your fingertips very lightly over the entire body


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